by Jack Reeves
"Life is difficult.... Once we truly understand and accept it, then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters."--Dr. M. Scott Peck
"Everybody hurts sometime," the song says. It's the human condition. We get differing advice on how to deal with difficulty and hurt in life: "Forget about it," or "Get over it," or "Get on with it."
But we can't always forget life's hurts and crises. They can be caused by relationships, traumas, tragedies. Many are indelible, enduring, and profound; they can't be forgotten.
"Get over it" is tough. A severe wound to the body scars; to the self, it can leave lasting moral or emotional injury. To get over it--beyond it--is equally hard.
"Get on with it" seems best. We can get on with life when we accept that wrongs, suffering, and difficulties are part of life. Then we move from life as problem to life as possibility.
Continually viewing life as a problem is a mindset for disappointment.
"We must...appreciate the truth that often 'Life is not a problem to be solved, but a mystery to be lived.'"--Dr. M. Scott Peck